The Pleasure Principle
Effortless Content Building
By Lee Glickstein
From TED Talks to talking with your teen or inspiring your team, 5 Minutes Mastery is an innovative easy-on-the-nervous system method for clarifying and transmitting your essential knowing with optimal impact.
In this article, I explain the precise protocol that any two people can follow to gain great results supported by videos and articles on this website. For group training sessions, see 5 Minutes Mastery workshops.
This protocol works wonders for any two people on a lifelong learning path to being more masterful communicators and are compatible in ambition and values. The sky’s the limit for what two can accomplish when they come from attuned listening and follow the protocol precisely. Try different partners for 45-minute sessions until you get on an undeniable trajectory.
The exercise is designed to nourish the soul. If it’s not pleasurable, you’re not yet doing it right.
Open your sessions with at least 30 seconds sitting across and sharing a soft gaze in deep stillness, then a 2-minute check-in turn in Relational Presence. If you haven’t experienced a session in Relational Presence (or it’s been a while) review the videos on the home page to get a taste of the ease and depth of that state when you practice it many times.
After the 2-minute turns, you take 5-minute turns back and forth 3 each (or more if you’d like). You need 3 turns to recognize the expansion.
Each turn begins with a precise planned sentence that places you in a life moment, perhaps a turning point moment, that still has some charge for you. Your only preparation for the session is to come with at least one sentence that opens you to the emotion of a specific moment. Go through your memory bank, or a book or box of old photos and find a scene associated with a memory that you can get a clear picture of. The first sentence transmits that picture to your listeners.
If you’re wondering how these random memories connect with developing your specific content, well … everything is connected and you’ll find out how during your turns. It is also okay to look for specific memories related directly to your content. Try it both ways and see where the trails lead.
It takes some experience to frame an opening sentence so it is precise, clear, and evocative.
One person formally introduces the other: “5 minutes with __________.”
The person introduced takes a full breath while going into a state of stillness with the listener, who is also holding stillness. Ideally you stay in each other’s soft eyes steadily for each entire turn. If this is a challenge, you may need some Speaking Circles practice.
After you say the first sentence you take a full breath to invite your listeners into the memory, and for you to go there yourself. Nothing less than a full breath. You have given up all plans for how you will proceed. You will be sourcing from the field of humanity as represented by yourself and your partner.
It’s good to have a timer (perhaps there’s one on your cell phone) that can chime softly 4:30 minutes in so you don’t have to be looking at a watch instead of your partner.
The person speaking acknowledges they are done, and the partners thank each other and take a full breath together in this ritual space. The introducer may ask “What do you want to remember from this turn?” and really listen to the response. If it’s a short response, they may ask, “Is there anything else?”
Ideally you would open each turn with the same sentence, and notice how it always goes a different, valuable way. But if you get an intuitive hit to try another sentence, go for it. (You don’t have to announce to your partner that you are switching, just use it.)
It’s important that you record your turns, perhaps on your cell phone. There are gems you don’t want to lose when the time comes to put a talk together.
Aside from the confidentiality around what you are hearing and not repeating it to others, you also don’t discuss the content with each other during the session, or make “useful” suggestions. Keep the session clean. Afterwards, how much you get involved in each other’s content is up to you. Consciously talk about how you want to handle this. You may need to learn by trial and error what works best for each of you.
Meet as often as fits into your mutual schedule. Once you do it successfully in person you may be able to shift your meetings to Skype or phone.
Have fun with this! And you are welcome to contact us with your questions and comments.
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